Showing posts with label flow. Show all posts
Showing posts with label flow. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Find Freedom in the Fat-Fear Frenzy


There's something about fruitcake and frosty weather that sends us into a Fat-Fear Frenzy. We tend to eat too much fruitcake, and we stay figuratively frozen inside our homes and bodies because it's too darn cold outside to play. Because we're inside and snuggled up, we decide to eat even more fruitcake (a little here, a little there) because we disconnect from the neck down and don't know what our bodies, or legs, or arms, or hips, or hearts really want.

Then, we hear the radio ads and watch the tv commercials about the inevitable holiday weight gain, and the fat-fear frenzy nearly eats us alive. Swallow this pill, sip that herbal tea, gulp this shake! Buy the latest "toning" contraption, use it for two days, then let it collect dust in your garage for the next five years until you move. Those fat-fear messages can make us hold our breath and lock up our bodies in angst, and it can nearly trick us into thinking that just looking at fruitcake can kill.

But, I refuse to buy into the fat fear, and so should you. That's old stuff. Just because it's the holidays doesn't mean you should put your body and breath on a shelf and come back to it January 1, 2011. Don't wait -- Listen to your body now.

Love Yourself
(and your tastebuds.) I know what you were thinking above, "Well, I don't eat fruitcake." Okay, I don't either, but some do, so fill in the blank with whatever salty or sweet treat you love. Then, enjoy it in moderation. On a plate in front of people -- not secretly sneaking it in the kitchen when no one's looking. And, if you don't dig it, don't eat it! Aunt Myrtle might serve up a colorful spread, but listen to your body to see what texture/taste and portion your body really wants and needs. Just because it's the holidays doesn't mean you should feel stuffed. But, you know what? It is the holiday season, so if you overindulge once or twice, forgive yourself and let it go. Lastly, when your belly and tastebuds are satisfied, fill yourself up in other ways -- take a nap, get crafty with wrapping gifts, write in your journal, call an old friend, or tune into how your body might want to MOVE:


Move Your Body
Commit to carve out time in your busy holiday schedule for regular physical activity -- not to burn calories -- but to make yourself feel alive and energetic and joyful. You don't have to kill yourself. Move for the right reasons. You'll sleep better and respect what your body's saying when you stay connected. If you're not a regular exerciser, that's okay. Start now -- tune into your breath, and practice letting your body tell you what it needs: flow in yoga, shake it in a dance class, walk and discover your neighborhood, push-pull your muscles via weight training, play fetch with your pup. And, to get ahead of those who wait until January 1, go ahead and try a new class (and get your spot!) before the January crowds get too thick!

Live Free
Promise yourself that instead of strict new year's resolutions, you'll stay true to you. Instead of all-or-nothing, black/white thinking, seek the middle of the road. Eat when you are hungry, rest when you are tired. Make exercise less competitive -- let your body lead you in movement. Write in your journal what you really, really, really want every single day (an Elizabeth Gilbert life/love writing exercise). Be with your feelings knowing that feelings don't kill you. Give trust and truth a chance. Treat yourself with kindness. Breathe.


And, finally, to quote Geneen Roth in Women, Food and God ~
‘Trust the process, trust your longing for freedom…Every time a woman aligns her eating with relaxation, every time she takes off her damn boots, the laces fly open for the rest of us.”

Friday, August 06, 2010

FLOW - forum and free video!


Hey, weekend warriors, FLOW's got two updates - See below!


#1) FLOW Training's website - http://www.mybodyflow.com/ - just blossomed a bit, which includes a new FORUM for discussion - http://flowforum.mybodyflow.com/user/Discussions.aspx?id=250807 - I'm the moderator for this community and would love to discuss fitness, healing through movement, yoga, or whatever you want re: listening to your body. You can post anonymously too if you're more comfortable that way.

#2) FLOW's got a FLIP cam and some fitness clips that will be uploaded soon...stay tuned. In the meantime:

* feel free to make a request for a short "video" (ex: stretch, yoga, breathwork, power step, etc.), and it will be added to the "shoot" list.

* the first person who requests a video tailored to her
preferences receives it free!

* personal fitness videos are available especially for you for a fee depending on the length and type of workout.

* Write FLOW for a chance to win a free personal video, to make a request for a short video posted on this site, or to inquire about cost!



Thanks for reading - I'm off to catch up with a new-mom friend and take a fun step class to start off my weekend just right! ;)

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Advice from a Tree


It's been a while since I've written, but I hope to write more this coming week - So, here I am to pop in quickly and say hello. Last week was a busy week, and yesterday was a busy but enjoyable Saturday (work, an appointment, a baby shower, a birthday dinner). Today I'm finally embracing the day by lingering through this morning with tea and a new book, soon a long walk while dog training (let's hope it goes smoothly!), and probably a warm dinner with my fella. ;)


Whether you're reading on a leisure Sunday or during your mid-week work life, I hope you can enjoy one of my favorite poems by Ilan Shamir:


Wednesday, January 21, 2009

The Zone!




The ZONE! Not the diet, the FEELING! I'm talking about when you breeze through an activity without your mind's endless chatter. You sense the warm feeling of being in your body or in a hobby that oozes with comfort, presence and enjoyment. Time clicks by, but it doesn't matter whether it's 5 minutes or 50 minutes, you sense the connection with yourself.

This "zone" or "flow" or "connection", however you definite it, might be exercise, art, writing, playing with a baby, or even reorganizing your closet or desk. However, bear with me, I'm not talking about escapism. I know it can be easy to "zone out" to an episode of LOST or even run hard on the treadmill only to get to that 30-minute mark. I'm not saying tv is bad, and I'm not even saying that having an exercise time-goal is a terrible thing. But, I do hope you can incorporate a true connection more and more throughout your day.

In the exercise world, it's really easy to zone out. Like I mentioned above, aiming for that time-goal, or pushing as intensely as possible through a step class just to feel the burn and blast the calories. But, what about actually staying present, listening to your body and enjoying the process?

I took a step class last night since my Tuesday night client had trained Monday afternoon. What a treat to enjoy my favorite step instructor (yes, we even have a group honoring him on Facebook - "Scott's Diehard Mansley Mall Step Class").

After setting up my bench with one riser on each side, we warmed up, I took off my long-sleeved blue shirt, and we stepped combo after combo. I found myself bursting with energy one moment, and then I'd simmer down with the next combo. It was back and forth, high-medium-high-medium-low, throughout class.

I used to want to go full force throughout the whole class - and sometimes I still do if I've got the energy. But, last night (like most classes for me) was definitely like a pendulum - sometimes I needed to kick hard and hop, sometimes I needed to stay grounded and enjoy a large but soft range of motion. I stayed in my zone, honored my body when it said, "simmer down, stay low", and I kicked it up a notch with my favorite move or tune!

Classes give me the most enjoyment - I love the energy of all the people. Yet, there are days when I need the repetitive rhythm of a walk, or a nice light sweat on the elliptical. And, I'll admit, if it's an elliptical day, I take something to read like a magazine. Beware of the magazine though! It's a great way to block all the silly number the elliptical's digital screen blares. Yet, it can also encourage "zoning out" v. "zoning in". So, if you're in the mood for a calm but warm sweat (ie - it's a treadmill, stationary bicycle or elliptical day), please tune in to your body. Stay with your breath. Read something light so your attention can stay with your body, and you'll be able to sense what intensity or resistance your body needs throughout each minute.

The goal here is connecting with your body, your breath, your self. Staying present instead of escaping. Having healthy intentions with exercise v. punishing yourself through exercise. If you need helping checking in and figuring out what in the world you can do to even find your healthy zone in the exercise arena, please let me know. I'm open ears and am happy to help. caroline@mybodyflow.com

Tuesday, November 06, 2007

Blueberries, Blackberries and Purpleberries






I love blackberries. My sister and her kids praise blueberries, but I vote for blackberries. And, really, they are purpleberries, but I’ll try not to make it a big deal.

I’m having a hard time right now. Lots of thoughts for writing and work, lots of to-do lists, lots of ahas! But, I’m distracted. I’ve been bitten by the P word again. Perfect. Trying to make everything “just so” before moving forward, before pitching an idea or pitching another piece. That reminds me of the phrase “like so” when someone’s trying to explain something. My brother and I had this conversation on the phone the other day – Years ago, at the Y in Simpsonville, the gym floor manager was showing my brother Sam and his friends all the equipment, but Sam was distracted because he kept saying “like so”. I can imagine the smartbutt bubbles over Sam’s head, probably something like “this guy’s a rat on a Cheeto”….

Obviously, I have a hard time focusing in the afternoon.
Give me morning anytime, but the afternoon is for blueberry people!

So to get unstuck today, I read Julia Cameron’s The Right to Write while drying my hair. On page 103, Cameron describes writer friends giving her the advice to post a sign by her desk reading: “OK, Universe. You take care of the quality, I’ll take care of the quantity.” Another excuse to use a Post-It. Another reminder that it’s not all about me. Another reminder of a dear mentor who tells me regularly that her work is spiritual – like a channel. Don’t force it,
let it flow.

Maybe the point is to accept that I’m distracted in the afternoon and should probably take that necessary nap, accept that a rat on a Cheeto is inevitable, accept that Little Ellie and Big Boy Harris love blueberries and not purpleberries, accept that I have to remind myself to ease up on myself, my work, my ideas. Accept that I’ll never have my own perfect flow.

Just be sometimes.





Be authentic with yourself and others.

Prioritize self care.
Listen to your inner voice.
Live with intention.
From: http://womansoul.com/aboutrebecca.html

Monday, April 09, 2007

Translate P to T and E

Wow, I'm about to take my own advice here, except it's not really my advice but from Natalie Goldberg, author of Writing Down the Bones. Instead of justifying or explaining my lapse in contributing to my own blog, I'll write some notes Goldberg gives:

Writing Ideas and Tips from Writing Down the Bones:
*Pick up the rhythms around you.
*Breathe deeply.
*Go for the jugular. If it's scary or naked, dive right into it; it probably has lots of energy.
*Capture the oddities of your mind.
*First thoughts have tremendous energy.
*Sit down with the least expectation of yourself. Say: "I am free to write the worst junk in the world." Give yourself the space to write a lot without destination.
*If the process is good, the end will be good. You will get good writing.

These tips correlate to your body/spirit energy, too. If you're like me, the P word haunts you. Perfectionism. So, whether you're writing or dancing or brainstorming or organizing, use these tips. Go with the flow. Allow some room for the T word. Trust. And, while you're at it, get to know the E word. Enough. You are enough. You can trust your work, your ideas, your being. Your flow is enough.