Exercising to Your Happy Weight?

I recently shared a blogpost on Facebook by one of my favorite bloggers, Ashley at Nourishing the Soul, that suggests with evidence that exercise is not an effective tool for your weight loss goals. Sorry to burst your bubbles and your time on the elliptical, but hang tight, it's an easy and interesting read, and I've still got good news for you, so check it out here: Exercising to Lose Weight? Think Again.

Exercise might not be the magic diet pill, but...
Since I'm assuming you read the aforementioned blogpost, just to reiterate the writer's pros for exercise, consistent doses can: "increase aerobic capacity, decrease blood pressure and resting heart rates, improve moods, build healthy bones and joints, reduce risks for heart disease and cancer, improve circulation, boost mood, increase learning ability and improve body image."

Exercise improves body image and body awareness....
From personal and professional experience, as people commit to moving their bodies in healthy, sustainable ways that include a variety of activity (think: cardiovascular, flexibility and strength training with appropriate rest), they become more connected to their bodies. And, what happens when you become more connected to how your body wants to move, how much strength you've got that day, what yoga or dance class you choose to take, what walking route to take to stimulate your body and mind? You become more in tune with your energy, your body, your rhythm and pace. You notice tightness in your hamstrings or shoulders, you feel an urge to add that song to your playlist for your next run, you take a coordination risk and join a Zumba class, you notice when you just need a rest or nap.

Improved body awareness leads to balance and authenticity...
You start noticing all these physical messages on when and how to move your body, and they lead you to noticing the rumbles in your belly when it's time fuel your body. You start to notice what would truly feel satisfying and nourishing, maybe not so much that forbidden binge food but something more sustainable. Then, you notice when you're belly is satisified because there's always more where that came from...later...when your body tells you it's time. You're getting in tune with your body because you've committed to moving your body for energy, health and pleasure. You're getting in tune with your hunger and fullness because you feel better when you have energy to move and live -- and you want to feel fueled, not too full.

The Balanced You. The Real You. The Healthy You. The Happy You.

Then -- and this all doesn't necessarily happen in this order and certainly not overnight, but you'll see the big picture -- you notice other hungers. I'm talking about neither powdered donuts and filet mignon nor Gucci purses and the knight in shining armor. When consistently tuning into your body and honoring it's needs, you'll also notice what your heart truly wants to live authentically. You'll notice what your mind wants -- not what other people think your mind should want. You'll notice the dreams and hopes and wishes you've buried underneath food, compulsive exercise or otherwise manipulating and abusing your body. To sum it up: Yes, I am claiming that exercising in a consistent, sustainable and balanced way can be used to balance out your body, to honor your energy and true hungers, to find your happy weight, and more importantly -- your happy life.

Not a miracle, just good, old-fashioned keeping it real. ;) If you need some guidance on creating a balanced, sustainable exercise program, or if you need other resources to escape the diet rollercoaster, contact me at caroline@mybodyflow.com or 404.210.6752, and we'll chat about the possibilities.

12-week Women's Group

Here's another *nourishing* opportunity for anyone who wants to steer clear of the diet lifestyle and yet find a new relationship with feeding and sustaining herself (hey guys, there are groups for you too!). Atlanta therapist Allyn St. Lifer will be leading the following group:

Shape Your Mind

Transform Your Body
With Slimworks

If you are tired of dieting and the negative feelings about yourself and your body that result, this Slimworks group can help. In a safe, encouraging, and supportive environment you will:

o Explore the underlying reasons for your overeating
o Develop strategies for changing your eating habits while eating all the foods you enjoy
o Improve your self image and body image
o Transform your relationship with food and your body
o Empower yourself and learn effective ways of dealing with the stress without using food AND MUCH MORE!

A new 12 week women’s group is forming:

Contact: Allyn St. Lifer, LCSW at 678-925-3516 email me at allyn@slimworks.com to schedule an assessment/interview
Date & Time: Starting on Wednesday, October 13, 2010,
6:30-8:00 PM
Cost: $60/session, some insurances accepted
Location: POWERS FERRY PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATES,
1827 Powers Ferry Road, Bldg 22, Atlanta, GA 30339

More loving, Less competing

(Wouldn't it be great if corporate meetings allowed employees to chill out in prayer pose? Off the mat, into the work-and-that-thing-called-life world...)

On Saturday morning, I took a yoga class and was handed a lovely reminder of being kind to oneself. We were moving into plow pose, adjusting our hips, relaxing tension, lengthening our spines. Then, the longer we held the pose, some scary grunts and groans sounded here and there throughout the room. Our teacher said, "Wait a minute, remember today's lesson in ahimsa - non-harming? This shouldn't hurt. Don't push or strain - be gentle with yourself."





You could feel the room relax and let go. We all stayed in plow, but the energy softened. Still full and very warm but more loving, less competing.





I love the lesson in non-harming. You can take it anywhere. Whether you're in a mat-to-mat-packed yoga class, driving in Atlanta traffic, trying to cross off your lengthy to-do list, dieting in a strict way, spending in a frivolous way, or expecting too much of yourself or someone else, it's a good reminder in being easier on yourself and others.





Sure, we can be fit as we want to be, we can make good grades, we can aim for a scorpion handstand, we can flourish in our job performance - we can accomplish the bucket list. Every once in a while, remember to do it all without harm. Set an intention, but be mindful, be gentle. And, for the heck of it, be nice. ;)

Looking Within v. NAAO

I'm a huge "do-not-diet" advocate. I'm also a huge believer that eating issues (overeating, undereating), food issues (you-name-it), and exercise abuse (or lack of exercise) issues, all settle much, much, much deeper than "laziness", or "she's just a control freak", or "too many vending machines followed by McDonald's". If those three examples truly explained overeating, undereating and everything-in-between, don't you think we could Move On?

When I got home tonight, I flipped on Campbell Brown's show on CNN featuring MeMe Roth, Founder and President of NAAO (National Action Against Obesity). If you watched, or if you're familiar with her antics, you know MeMe's claims of tough love for anyone who's overweight. In a nutshell, "stop eating junk, move, and for goodness sakes, have some self discipline!"

Now, if you visit the following link highlighting her philosophies ( http://www.actionagainstobesity.com/NationalActionAgainstObesity/Founder.html), you might find some decent points like the rising problem of obesity, dangerous food marketing, and eating a balanced diet. Then, she slides in that obesity is basically a self-inflicted illness. I could write a book here, but I won't.

Look, I make a living helping others to "listen to their bodies" by moving (aka exercising). I'm obviously an advocate of a well-balanced diet, consistent doses of various physical activities, and proper rest. But, from personal and professional experience, claiming that some whippersnapper self-discipline and a 4-mile daily run will guarantee you a thin, trim, fit, svelte 20s body-for-life is bologna.

Sure, we could cut back on the regular fast-food meals or the daily vending machine snacks filled with sugar. Sure, we could all step away from our computers and televisions and take the dogs on a walk. Sure, we could try to tax all the "fat" in attempts to solve all our obesity and health insurance problems. But, if it's too good to be true, you know the rest....

If you peel back the initial layers of health education (a balanced diet, listening to your body's signals, regular exercise and sleep, stress reduction), you'll find that a) some people are quite happy and healthy not being a certain size, and/or b) obesity can likely be a sign of emotional eating and sometimes categorized as a clinically diagnosed eating disorder(s).

I have a hard time with MeMe's light-switch notion that people should be more disciplined in controlling their weight and that people CHOOSE unhealthy lifestyles. Lucky for her ego, she oozes with self control and righteousness otherwise she might not be preaching.

Let me reiterate - Let's get healthy. Let's educate ourselves. But, let's also dig deeper to find out why we have food issues. Or, drinking issues, or shopping issues, or gossiping issues, or gambling issues, or relationship issues, etc. Or, how about sense-of-self or spirit issues?

Instead of diets, or drinking, or credit cards, let's get real and fill ourselves with self-care and healthy, supportive relationships. I know it's a lot to ask, but looking within toward the tender places might just be the richest thing you will ever find.



*If you feel you need some guidance in finding a therapist to help you with these issues, please feel free to contact me.

FDA v. Hydroxycut (finally!)

Really? Is this just happening? The following NY Times article states that the FDA is urging consumers to stop using Hydroxycut diet aids. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/02/business/02fda.html?_r=1&ref=nutrition

Dear FDA, is it news to you that Hydroxycut is extremely dangerous, not to mention a cruel way to tease and taunt consumers about safe, effective, results-oriented weight loss?

Hydroxycut and other diet pills/potions aren't worth it. Get back to the basics:

*Listen to your body.

*Feed yourself when your stomach says "I'm hungry". Stop when you've had enough.

*Practice daily self-care to avoid stuffing, starving, binging, purging or compulsive dieting.

*Find movement you enjoy, and complement that with cardio/strength/flexibility training.

*Be grateful for all the ways your body, heart, mind and spirit move you.

What Do You Do? My Story

In September 2007, when I quit my corporate job and became self-employed as a personal trainer, it was quite out of character for me, but my family seemed like they supported me "enough" for me to believe in The Jump too. And, if they'd never picked up their jaws from the floor (because fyi, I left a comfortable salary, benefits, paid vacay, etc.), I still would have made The Leap. I had to do it. I had to take the chance for myself.

I'd been teaching fitness classes since 1999, had been led by solid mentors, and had my fair share of flaky fitness pros to steer me toward the direction I wanted (and steer clear of what I did not). I loved and still love music and movement, and I will always thrive on the energy created from a group of bodies and spirits moving to the vibration of beautiful sounds and breathing.

Here's the caveat: a) I danced in elementary and middle school, and I took one dance class in college - I'm far from a professional dancer. b) My athleticism reaches Christi C's step class throughout high school at the Simpsonville YMCA. Tennis during my senior year of high school turned out to be an excuse to laugh with my friend, Erin, on the courts and include an athletic activity on my college applications. With that said, I doubt I was ever an athlete in a former life. c) I was never The Model or The Actress or The Really Hot Girl in high school or college to plant one iota of thought that I should teach others how to "look good" through exercise and diet.

Matter of fact, I wish I'd continued dancing as I grew up because I loved it. I wish I'd been more concerned with how my body moved on the tennis court and less concerned with how my legs looked in a short tennis skirt. And, finally, like many girls and boys, and women and men, I battled body wars. That means deep down, for me, I never felt good enough, thin enough, fit enough - because I sought that validation on the outside too much - my body, my college application, my resume, what people thought - You know the saying, I couldn't see the forest for the trees.

Well, luckily, along the way, I spotted a few trees that led me to seeing many more. Some little voice inside kept encouraging me to stay in my favorite step classes - because that's where my spirit thrived. Some little voice kept encouraging me to write, to listen to what I really had to say. Some little voice nudged me to reach out to some women who Get It.

And, that same little voice helped me to carve out my dream job. Here's how it happened:

They say one has to hit a rock bottom. Well, when I worked in the tv news biz, I, an early-to-bed-early-to-rise gal, was handed the overnight shift from Thursday through Sunday for my last six months. And, while I met some lovely people at my first job in news who do good work there, I won't delve into my bitterness (nausea due to lack of sleep, low-grade depression, zero social life - hello, I worked weekend overnights!, and finally, suspicion that to get ahead, some, not all, had to...well, I'll stop right there) because it became the springboard to my November 2006 "adios, amigos!" - Hallelujah and Cheers, Mothership of News, I decided you could hold your own without me.

Now, that I'm quite certain this will not come bite me in my wobbly bits (thank you, BJ), I can admit that on the overnight shift, among listening to editors talk unprofessionally about women, recording feeds, managing the hours of digital space, and cleaning up others' mistakes, I had lots of time to research, to write, to heal. I knew that my years of feeling - out of touch with my body, not good enough, too dreamy, too big, too hungry, too full, nauseated - of feeling like I was grasping the air for a sense of being grounded, were expiring. I knew that there had to be another way.

I knew there had to be another way for myself, and there had to be another way for many people like me. For all the books I read about exercising, dieting, disordered eating, self help, etc., I knew I couldn't be one of few who felt the need for something deeper. I knew I couldn't be the only one who wanted to feel strong and true to herself - to feel just right, not too big, not too small, and Good Enough. I knew that if I could aim to stay true to myself, I could feel more connected to myself and help others along the way. With the help of a amazing mentor, I drew out a plan of being a personal trainer to help people thrive in their bodies.

While contemplating my plan of action in summer/fall 2006, I got the opportunity to work for a specialty pharmacy - the lift-off the springboard from my hard news career. I covered most of the Southeast visiting fertility specialists and made more money than five additional years (or more) at my previous company. I made my own schedule and was responsible for building relationships with about 45 practices. The autonomy and home/road/car office fit me well, yet my heart kept urging me to go ahead and take The Plunge, the one I'd been spending the last few years contemplating.

I still loved teaching classes, and I'd gotten my personal training certification with some clients on the side. My travel schedule kept me from building more of a regular base of personal training clients and classes. How did I know it would work? How did I know my savings would carry me through four or five months? And, how did I know that a personal training career could support me - my one-bedroom apartment, my health insurance, my cat, and all my dreams ahead? I didn't have any personal trainer friends - the trainers I knew in college had other full-time jobs - and, at first, the trainers I met here and there in Atlanta were concerned with dispensing buckets of protein powder, weighing/measuring/calculating and assigning Hulk-like training regimens to sculpt a body perfect - far from my philosophies.

AND, the big BUT, the crazy WHAT IF thinking, scared me silly. Besides the logistics of money and marketing, would people want to train with me? The Good Enough fear creeped inside my mind. I'm no fitness model and do not aim to be on the cover of Oxygen magazine. And, while I'm an advocate of cross training (resistance/cardiovascular/flexibility training and rest), I'm even a bigger advocate of intuitive exercise/movement. I'm not the trainer who will prescribe a protein-only diet and promise firmer buns, smaller thighs, a six-pack, and 10% body fat. I will push you to dig deeper, to find fitness from within, to honor your appetites (emotional and physical), to notice your breath, to run, to push/pull, to inhale, to exhale, to rest, to reach, to bask in the light and darkness.

Despite my fears, I sensed a bigger plan ahead and knew that some how, some way, my business would prosper and, hopefully, expand along the way. And, on a sunny day in June, when I'd taken a few days off my traveling job to attend a Pilates workshop, I received a call from my manager that my territory had expanded from five to nine states - Things that make you go "hmmmmm". I didn't see my heart stretching much more into that job. Less than a year after accepting the initial traveling sales job offer, I left it behind - with gratefulness and relief. And, I opened my business FLOW Training.

I can say I'm still excited about my business. I can't say it's perfect, I can't say I'm all-knowing, and I can't say that there haven't been any bumps. I've met more wonderful mentors and friends who've helped to keep nudging along my spirit, hope and enthusiasm. My belief and wonder outweigh my hefty self-employment taxes and ongoing fear monsters.

I write this because when people ask what I do, it takes a while to explain. I'm not your average personal trainer. Like I said, I do not believe in strict regimens, beating up your body, or aiming for perfection that will never exist. I am a trainer who, no matter your background or limitations or pain or hopes, will walk with you and help you to be in your body, to embrace your strengths and your softness, your energies and your stillness.

My wish for you is to keep seeking the trees - seek the peace of being rooted, grounded, strong. Keep breathing, moving, resting and reaching.

Inner Movement Mama

I'm sure you've heard the term "your inner parent" - the adult part of yourself that should ultimately take care of you, all of your feelings, all of your moods, all of your responsibilities. That's a BIG job, especially when feelings span from one end of the rainbow to the other and to-do lists seem to never ease. But, she is always there ready for your requests.

Since I'm a personal movement trainer, here's where I coin the phrase "Inner Movement Mama". Might sound a little silly, but take a few moments to think what that could mean, how it could help you.

Do you often battle with body image? Do you have guilt on the days you don't exercise? Do you wonder what days you should incorporate weight training? Do you feel anxious that you're not stretching enough? Do you wonder how much cardio you should squeeze into your week? Do you ever purge through exercise or otherwise? Do you struggle with any sort of emotional eating? Do you have a solid sense of listening to your body? Do you know the wonders and satisfaction and peace of deep breathing? Do you stay on track only to fall off after a too-strict two weeks? Do you turn to Shape/Fitness/Oxygen/Cosmopolitan/People magazines to read about the latest diet fads? Do you stare at the newest diets wondering when in the heck you'll get used to those bland tasting foods (and how in the world you won't faint from such low calories)?

Does my list of question after question above sound a bit like the tape in your head that never stops spinning when you are trying your absolute best to eat and exercise "right"?

I understand. I truly understand. And, since I've done a lot of my own work (*Oh, and I still am along with everyone else...), I've discovered a way to help me tune into my body. There are days I feel my bones and muscles and cells and spirit talking to me. I know exactly what I need. Maybe a heart-pumping step class. Maybe some flow yoga. Maybe to push and pull some dumbbells and resistance bands. Maybe rest.

And then, there are days I am stressed or anxious or exhausted. You know what I mean. Those are the days I feel like the 4-year-old girl who wants comfort, no worries, no taxes, no difficult situations! Yet, I know better than that. And, while I might be swarming with yuck feelings of anxiety, I also know that my mind knows what's best. I know that while my body might feel like stomping her feet, my mind knows how to collect some information about my physical state and lead me to where I need to go.

*Perhaps I've been teaching a lot of yoga to clients and haven't had a chance to get in some aerobic movment in a few days. While I'm feeling flexible and calm, I'm feeling a little low energy one afternoon, and my Inner Movement Mama comes in to say, "Take a long walk or a great class - it'll amp up your energy and mood once you get moving."

*Perhaps I've been subbing a lot of classes lately, and I need a break. But, it's sunny outside, and some old stuff comes up saying, "it's sunny, get some exercise". My Inner Movement Mama comes in and says, "open your door, smell the fresh air, get comfortable and grounded on your floor, breathe deeply, maybe take a nap."

*Perhaps I'm anxious with a very nervous stomach or indigestion. I'm having a hard time listening to my hunger/full signals so I maybe eat too much or not enough to sustain me through a long morning of work. My Inner Movement Mama comes in and says, "You've got hurt in your heart. Let me take care. You know you need to fuel yourself with just the right amount - You might not be able to detect hunger/full signals now, so take an objective point of view to what your body needs to thrive - give yourself a break from always having to tune into your signals 24/7. Your mind can take over here and there too. Feed yourself enough but not too much, and breathe." Hallelujah! Sometimes my common sense can actually do the work!

Next time you're a little confused about your next daily step to exercising or eating, talk to your Inner Movement Mama. I promise you she's wise and will always be there to pick you up when you fall.

Happy Weekend!

New Year - New You?

Happy 2009! Are you ready to feel fit and strong? Do you feel balanced? Do you need some guidance in a particular area of exercise? My 2 cents:

First, this is a Journey: Just because it's January doesn't mean you have to be drastic. Just because it's January doesn't mean you have to sign up for a marathon or a new restrictive diet plan to "undo" the holidays. Take it one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time.

Back to the Basics - Food as Fuel: Balance your diet, hydrate your body with fresh water. If you need deeper nutrition advice, please let me know. I'm happy to give you some basic guidance or steer you toward a great dietician!

Move Your Body - Cross Train: Consistently include resistance training, consistently include *enjoyable* cardiovascular exercise, consistently include flexibility training, and get some solid dreamland time (aka: sleep!).

I know that may sound like a lot. And, do you see the pattern of "consistence"? We're talking consistence, not obsessiveness or perfection. There's a difference. And, if it sounds overwhelming, perhaps some healthy habits need to become a part of your regular schedule. And/or, perhaps you might want to be educated more about cross training or a balanced diet. Then, the exercise, balanced eating and regular sleep aren't so daunting when including the rest of your daily activities!

You can read some previous blogs to gain an understanding of "just how much" exercise you need depending on your age and state of health. Or, email me if you have questions regarding ways to balance out your physical exercise. I'm happy to help! caroline@mybodyflow.com

Cheers to a healthy lifestyle in 2009!!

Fudgy Cornbread

I never claim to be a cook. Here I am trying to make cornbread. According to the directions, I was to use a 9x9 baking dish. Well, I have an 8x8 square dish and the heart-shaped dish above which varies in size all around, but I don't have a 9x9. I figured the heart would be a nice compromise. But, after the 27 minutes of required baking, it looked pretty on top, but it looked like pudding in the middle. Yikes.


So, we baked it a little longer, ate some crust off the top each time we opened the oven, baked it a little longer, kept wondering if we could swallow fudgy cornbread, baked it a little longer, and kept wondering if we should just slice off the top and eat the crust.


The cornbread kept rising. So did my hair. That's why included these pictures - the guys from my step class would have been horrified at the frizz. Oh well. The cornbread finally baked all the way through. Just a little doughy in the middle, but I figured those pieces would be microwaved the next day, and therefore, cooked more.


The Boyfriend and I feasted on spicy venison stew (so I kept pouring milk for my on-fire taste buds) and Bob's Red Mill ever-rising cornbread (geez, soooo good!). We were starving, and I definitely ate past my comfortable point. Whoopsy-Daisy!


Do you ever struggle with recognizing your satiety - finding that comfortable "satisfied - but not stuffed" level? It can be a challenge, especially if you've experienced many diet/binge periods. Many times, it requires balancing listening to your body and practicing some portion control. And, in the area of measurements and portions, I'm an advocate of flexibility. But, what a great idea to be educated and have a general idea of what your body needs and can manage to function properly in regards to nutrients and portions.


Do you ever struggle with becoming over-hungry - then eating too much at dinner because you feel famished? Do you remember to take portable, healthy snacks with you while you're living and being active?


While shopping for my niece and nephew at Borders this afternoon, I was browsing cookbooks since they were on sale, and I came upon Tosca Reno's "The Eat Clean Diet Cookbook". I've read about her books while browsing some fitness magazines - those that I usually walk away from buying as soon as I happen upon a ridiculous Hydroxycut ad. But, I was pleasantly surprised while browsing her books - clean, clear, up front, reasonable, manageable and nonrestrictive.


I believe we'll continue to see a move more and more toward healthy/clean/organic eating. And, while I am not talking about "dieting", I am talking about living. How can you function your best? How can you live through your days with your best energy? What changes do you need to make? And, how can you take care of yourself in healthy, supportive ways to get where you want to go?


Personally, I need to prepare myself better with snacks in the car so I'm not starving by the time I get home because by that time, I could eat a horse, a pig, a chicken and a cow all at once! Good thing, I've never had an appetite for my cat!


Seriously though, I tend to get hungrier sooner than I think, so even though I'm mobile and always pretty close to home, I think it's time for me to invest in new Tupperware, some Sunday chopping of veggies and packing snack bags, and possibly a new little cooler. Just a few more things to add to my 2010 wish-for-myself list.


It's been a long week after a weekend funeral, a computer virus that wiped out my system, and a growing-never-ending-December to-do list. But, I'll write more to encourage setting mindful intentions for the new year...I know it's coming up, but I'm happy to have this month to think about what I want/need for myself for next year. I hope you are too.


Feel free to write with any questions about Tosca Reno's book or any other questions/suggestions you might have. caroline@mybodyflow.com As always, I'm happy to answer questions, keep them confidential, and I'm always happy to refer readers to dieticians and therapists to help who might help you along your journey. ;)

Fruition Health - Nutrition Counseling

Need a nutrition consultation? Need to find a better food/mind/body balance? I know that with the holidays up and coming, the overload of rich treats and personal obligations can wreak havoc on your connection to your self/body. Here's another way to possibly give to yourself and stay in touch throughout the holidays!

I just found this interesting service in Yoga Journal magazine: http://www.fruitionhealth.com/ - a nutrition counseling program helping you to cultivate a new relationship with food and your body.

Fruition Health is based in CA providing one-on-one counseling, cooking classes and yoga, but they do provide phone consultations. I'm signing up for a phone consultation because I'm curious about their approach to nutrition and mending one's relationship to food. Pretty cool philosophy! And, I usually don't recommend sources without trying them myself first, but the website has a load of valuable, up-to-date information with honest, informative writing from the founder herself - I have a good feeling!

The founder worked at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York. It's about time nutrition counseling sinks deeper than generic prescriptions and recommendations for servings and nutrients. Ignoring the holistic component is not an option anymore...let's dig deeper. I'll let you know how my session goes!

Keep in mind, if you're struggling to mend your relationship with food - whether you're overeating or restricting, or a combination of it all - in addition to nutritional counseling, please also seek the guidance of a licensed and qualified psychotherapist who specializes in disordered eating. If you need a suggestion, I'd be happy to provide names. Just email me: caroline@mybodyflow.com

PS - I'm chiming in to edit: Just got an email from the founder - Due to maternity leave, she'll only be able to take new clients starting in March. Still a great site to visit for support!

What Inspires You? Take Action.

I've decided to piggyback another blog by Karen Koenig and expand on her thoughts. Karen is a psychotherapist, educator, writer and speaker in the disordered eating field. The specific blog entry that caught my eye is entitled "Self Empowerment". To read, click http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/healthy/

To sum it up: Do something outside dieting and exercising to mend your relationship with your body and food. Karen uses the example to do something politically - if the election has your blood boiling, get involved, use your voice, it counts. I say - whether it's something political, or career-wise, or a creative outlet - dig deeper in those areas to feed your appetite for life!

I wrote Karen, and here's a sample of my feedback to her. I thought I might as well share it with you too:

Since the drama of this presidential (and vice presidential!) election has heightened over the last few months, I've found myself feeling waves of frustration, confusion, anger and excitement! Like you suggested, Karen, mending a complex mind/food/spirit/body relationship takes time, yet taking action outside of food/dieting plays a HUGE part in naturally killing the body wars.

Besides being aware of my intense feelings regarding this '08 election (and remembering to breathe and listening calmly to other perspectives than my own), getting involved with my own interests and taking my heart's yearnings seriously over the past two-three years have proven to keep mending my own relationship to food.

After struggling with overeating, dieting, and overexercising since I was age nine or ten, I finally sought therapy - I was working in the tv news industry - miserable and stressed but didn't know I wanted more - more goodness, more peace, more creativity, more voice, more freedom. Then, I quit the news biz and got a job in pharma sales and screamed everyday inside against the money-harboring pharmaceutical industry. With the help of my therapeutic journey, I was fed up enough to quit that job too and created my own company to help others find peace and connection within their bodies (something I'd already been doing part-time).

While I practice what I preach, I am human and still have feelings and cravings and yearnings. I'm not immune to society's pressure-for-perfection - I am a sensitive person who feels a lot! But, everyday offers the opportunity and blessing to honor my needs and wants and dreams. I can choose to take care of myself versus resorting to unhealthy coping mechanisms. What a beautiful journey to continue learning about myself while helping others connect - to continue helping them dig deeper to realize the vastness of their appetites beyond diet/exercise Bandaids.

What is it you want? What makes your blood boil? What do you enjoy so much that you barely notice time passing? What do you yearn for? Give yourself the chance to brainstorm, dream, write. Then, go for it.

“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dareto dream of meeting your heart’s longing.” ~ Oriah, The Invitation

Your Story?

Hi all ~

I'm interested in gaining feedback from you. Along with my friend at www.phonomenalvideo.com, I am working on producing a piece of work highlighting the emotional eating recovery process. We would love to hear your unique feedback. Please email me at carolineflow@gmail.com !

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Thank you in advance for helping with this research. We are producing a video highlighting the recovery process for those affected by disordered eating. This includes those who personally struggle with disordered eating as well as those who have been closely involved (family, friends, mentors, coaches, therapists).

While there are many videos defining different types of disordered eating, we feel it’s important to show that recovery and “the other side” is possible. Because no recovery path is identical to another, we want to show an array of stories. Additionally, we feel the truth works, therefore, we understand the need to show realistic angles – the ups, the downs, the middle-of-the-road days, etc. Most importantly, we want to hear your unique truth, your insight, your hopes. Thank you.

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Regarding the body wars or emotional eating, please answer the following questions. Feel free to write as much or as little as you want:

What did you overcome? Or, what are you overcoming? (the problem/dysfunction)

How did you overcome it (therapy, reading, group support, relationships, etc.)?

What was your turning point in wanting to stick to recovery?

How do you define recovery?

What has been the greatest challenge(s) in this process?

How are you today? What is your reality?

Do you consider yourself a “success story” (beating the odds, beating your own beliefs, etc.)?

What would you like others to know?

During your recovery journey, did/do you think a self-help, educational video on recovery, would help? If so, what messages would you like to have seen? And/or, what do you think should not be shown in a recovery video?

If you are able and willing and to share your story on camera in the Atlanta area, please provide your contact information below. Thank you.

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